How to raise a secure adult
'The children of your people will live in security.' Psalm 102:28 NLT
When you ask parents about their future hopes for their children, you'll hear words like happy, secure and self-confident. Those are nice sentiments, but not guarantees. But what makes that kind of adult? A childhood filled with trophies and good grades? A life in the country, far away from the crime-ridden city? Enriching pastimes like travel and music? The truth is, not one of these things predicts later happiness. That doesn't mean you shouldn't encourage children to study and excel; having parents who value knowledge makes a difference.
The important qualities, however, aren't external, they're internal. Psychologist Dr Edward Hallowell says to feel secure, your children need to develop two crucial skills: (1) The ability to overcome adversity. (2) The capacity to sustain joy. He says, 'Life is full of disappointments. Only by failing the first time and learning to try, try and try again will a person get the most out of their abilities.'
But how do you teach your kids to be joyful in the face of adversity? There's only one way to do it: introduce them to the source of joy. Isaiah said, 'My soul shall be joyful in my God; for he has clothed me with...salvation' (Isaiah 61:10 NKJV). David said, 'In your presence is fulness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore' (Psalm 16:11 NKJV). Jeremiah said, 'Your word was to me the joy...of my heart' (Jeremiah 15:16 NKJV). God never promised us a life without problems, but his Word says, 'The Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives...joy' (Galatians 5:22 NLT).
Soulfood: Exo 28-29, Matt 8:10-17, Ps 84, Pro 2:16-19